As a child, I remember there were several times that an adult (not necessarily my parents) commented negatively either about their weight and/or appearance. And I also remember there were a few times that it was directed toward my own weight and/or appearance, of which I never (or ever) forgot. Although, I know the comments weren't malicious and intended to do harm, as an overweight child they were especially damaging for me; and sadly this isn't an uncommon story. And, in my opinion, today's world presents a heightened risk for low self-esteem and eating disorders, especially due to constant social media, with readily available images of perfect bodies (that are often airbrushed), and the continuing desire to attain perfection. Hearing comments from adults and peers can clearly be harmful enough, but the addition of these various other influences can exponentially add to the feelings of low self-worth.

During the recent National Eating Disorders Week (Feb 23rd-Mar 1st), there were several interesting articles about how a parent's behavior can impact a child's body image. The overwhelming message is for parents (and all adults in my opinion) to lead by example. Unfortunately, parents can forget how their actions and words can impact the lives of their children; Especially when it involves body image and eating behavior. Parents need to be mindful of how they eat, their relationship with their own bodies, and the potential impact on their kids. And specifically, a mother's attitude regarding body image significantly influences how children view themselves. I am not a mother myself, but I witness the influences (both positive and negative) both by working in the fitness industry and having worked in the restaurant industry for several years.

Here are some of the common tips that I found useful and wanted to share with you:

1. Avoid criticizing yourself or others about weight or shape in front of your (or other's) children. Of course we all have times that we are unhappy about something about ourselves; and that's normal. We are only human. Just try to stop yourself before verbalizing it for others to hear.

2. Avoid talking negatively about food or labeling foods as good and bad. Such as "never eat fried foods" or "carbs will make me fat". It's more important to teach the importance of healthy eating and exercise instead of weight.

3. Make sure your child understands that weight gain is a normal part of development, especially during puberty.

4. De-emphasize the importance of appearance, and emphasize efforts, talents and accomplishments.

5. Measure success in healthy changes, not numbers on the scale. Such as replacing TV watching with physical activity.

I was fortunate enough to have parents that have never really "dieted" but were/are realistically aware of their diet, and also love being active. Although I did have a few memorable comments/experiences that weren't so pleasurable, I consider myself lucky to have an "eat to live" type of lifestyle, and hopefully as a society we can move more in that direction instead of a "live to eat" or "live to NOT eat" one. So, the next time you want to talk about your thunder thighs in front of your daughter or want to tell your nephew that he will get fat if he eats that. . . stop yourself and think about how that could affect he/she. . . and instead go for a walk with them!